Every Successful Relationship needs one Rock and one Kite…

Originally posted on LORIEB:

Every successful, long-term relationship I know of is made up of one rock and one kite…

The rock is the one that thinks with their head and not their heart, (do NOT read “heartless” or  “cold-hearted” here), can be counted on to tell you the truth even when you don’t want to hear it,  can handle the truth even when it’s not pretty, and always seems to have their feet firmly on the ground.   This person has firm beliefs (I did NOT say “narrow-minded”), morals and ideals.  They are extremely loyal and dedicated to their partner.  They are also very appreciative of the role that their kite plays in their relationship.

The kite on the other hand, likes to soar.  This person has a great imagination, is often creative, is a bit of a dreamer, and can be impulsive.   Many decisions, good and bad, are made based on emotion.   Kites love to meet new people, take on new…

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When are you ever truly ready to have children?

When are you truly and completely ready to have children?  Research shows that couples (and singles too) are putting off having children until later these days, some even forgoing the experience altogether.  There are many reasons for this:

  • to compete in today’s workplaces, many young people feel they must have an extensive post secondary school education (one or more bachelor’s degrees, master’s, PhDs etc)  This applies to both males and females.
  • these formal educations financially drain many couples.
  • after all the time and money spent on an education, many (women especially) feel they want to concentrate on their careers instead of raising a family.

That’s a lot of pressure on couples today.  No wonder the birth rates in many countries around the world are dwindling.

I had the pleasure of chatting with a young woman at my dentist’s office the other day.  Our conversation centered around her desire to start a family and her hesitation to do so because of the fact she and her husband do not yet feel ready.  She is in the final stretch of a master’s degree at the age of 32, anxious to finish her education and get on with the rest of her life.  She also expressed fear that she would not physically enjoy being pregnant.

Although I understood her misgivings, I assured her that a couple can never be totally ready for pregnancy, children and the changes they bring to your life.  However, if you are financially, emotionally and physically prepared, pregnancy and the birth of a child can be the greatest experience ever.  Open your mind to the miracle that each pregnancy is, embrace the changes to your body, and try to relax.  Be sure to make and take the time to cherish and enjoy the experience.  I am quite confident offering this advice as I am an expert on the subject of pregnancies.  To see why I feel this way, read a previous blog post on the subject.

In conclusion, you will never feel 100% ready for a pregnancy.  After all, in my opinion, the reason we humans have a nine month gestation period in our pregnancies is to give us time to get ready!

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Tears are not Enough and other Christmas music on Majic 100.3 FM

There is nothing like Christmas music to get you into the holiday spirit…


While Christmas music never fails to inspire me, it also makes me realize how lucky we in Canada are to be able to celebrate the holiday season with loved ones.

Yesterday, while sitting in a dentist chair, I heard the song “Tears are not Enough” on Majic 100’s radio station.  “Tears are not Enough” is a single musical collaboration produced in Canada, in 1985, to raise money for the victims of famine in Ethiopia.  A group of Canadian talents such as singer Bryan Adams and songwriter David Foster came up with the hit under the banner Northern Lights.

The lyrics and voices of Northern Lights and Tears are not Enough were powerful back in 1985, raising more than 3 million dollars for charity.   Today the lyrics continue to be powerful and are especially appropriate and meaningful with all of the unrest in the world.  Take a moment to read the lyrics and listen to the video…

      “Tears Are Not Enough”

As every day goes by
How can we close our eyes
Until we open up our heartsWe can learn to share
And show how much we care
Right from the moment that we startSeems like overnight
We see the world in a different light
Somehow our innocence is lostHow can we look away
‘Cause every single day
We’ve got to help at any costWe can bridge the distance
Only we can make the difference
Don’t ya know that tears are not enough

If we can pull together
We could change the world forever
Heaven knows that tears are not enough

It’s up to me and you
To make the dream come true
It’s time to take our message everywhere

C’est l’amour qui nous rassemble
D’ici ?l’autre bout du monde
Let’s show them Canada still cares
You know that we’ll be there

If we should try together you and I
Maybe we could understand the reasons why
If we take a stand every woman, child and man
We can make it work for God’s sake lend a hand


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What’s religion got to do with it?


This reblog about the  controversial, global dilemma of accepting refugees was titled “In which I tell you how religion works” but I have put my own slant on it.  I like the message from it, just do not want to imply that I have the knowledge or desire to tell anyone how religion works…

Originally posted on Infinitefreetime.com:

christianity_versus_other_religions_blog-horngsawI am not a Christian.  That fact has probably been perfectly clear for a very long time; it doesn’t take a whole lot of reading around here to figure it out.

What may be less clear to non long-time visitors: Chances are I know way more about Christianity than you do.  Is that a guarantee?  No, not at all.  But most of you don’t have a Master’s degree in Biblical studies.  I do.  And I got it from one of the best divinity schools in the country.  So chances are I know more about Christianity and Western religion in general than you do.

I’ve been thinking about Jesus a lot in the last few days.  Maybe I should go full wanker here and call him Yeshua, or something, to rid him of some of the cruft that’s accumulated over the past 2000 years, but the point is I’ve spent a…

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Christmas is coming soon according to Home Depot


Since Thanksgiving (here in Canada) and Remembrance Day are over, the calendar says Christmas is next.  Mother Nature has not been told yet however; we continue to have unseasonably warm weather here in Eastern Ontario, and I for one am not complaining.

Home Depot is ready though with lots of Christmas specials on…


I usually wait until the beginning of December at least to start decorating, but I know lots of you do so sooner. Enjoy!

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Your blood pH; keep it Alkaline!


this is an older post of mine, from June 2013

Originally posted on LORIEB:

The pH level of a substance is the measure of potential hydrogen on a scale of 0 to 14.  On this scale, a measurement of less than 7.0 is called acidic and greater than 7.0 is alkaline.  In this way pH is used to  measure acidity versus alkalinity in everything from the soil in your garden, and the water in your swimming pool, to the blood cells in your body.

Why is it so important to keep your blood pH on the alkaline side?  Basically because extensive research has shown that an alkaline Ph increases the amount of oxygen in your blood.  This is a good thing since the lack of oxygen in your blood cells causes disease.

When our blood becomes too acidic we enter a state of acidosis.  Even a slight deviance from the ideal pH of 7.4 can cause problems, starting with loss of energy and concentration…

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The best things about my Gardens4u offseason

Believe it or not there are good things about the offseason in a gardening business.  Gardens4u is no exception.  All season, when I am incredibly busy, I make lists of the things I will get done in the offseason.  Here are a few of the best things…

  • I don’t set the alarm clock.  When my husband rolls out of bed at 545am, he no longer asks me what time I want to get up so he can reset the clock for me.  I get up when I wake up; pure luxury!
  • my house gets a great cleaning.  Last winter I went through each and every closet in the house, decluttering and purging,a chore that was long overdue.  The kitchen and bathrooms cupboards, garage, laundry room and file cabinet are on the hit list this year.  The organizations that pick up used clothing and household items love me this time of year. I may even get adventurous and open a Kijijii (Canadian version of Ebay) account to sell some of the big things.  That is if I can convince my husband to part with them.
  • I spend more time reading books.  There are lots of interesting choices on my to read list this year, but I would love to hear your suggestions!
  • I spend lots of time updating my website.  Now, I know that doesn’t sound too exciting, but I love looking at the pictures I took this past season, especially the ones of gardens I planted in earlier seasons.  It’s almost like watching the gardens grow!  Be sure to check out the changes at GARDENS4U and send me your comments and suggestions.
  • I go out to lunch or coffee with friends that I have not seen much of through the gardening season.  Give me a shout if you are in the neighbourhood!  I plan to get back to my hometown sometime soon too to reconnect with some childhood friends.
  • I may even get to the scrapbooks I have been meaning to assemble.  Years ago I sorted “stuff” from my three sons’ childhoods into separate bins.  You know, stuff that mothers keep, like school and sports achievements, mementos, pictures etc.  It was a start, but the bins are still full and the scrapbooks empty.  The plan was to give the boys each a scrapbook on their 18th birthday.  Well, my eldest son is about to turn 26.  Time does fly doesn’t it?
  • I dream about spring while looking through my numerous garden books and magazines.
  • I hope to transfer all my old homemade VHS movies onto CDs.  I bought a device to do so, just have to figure out how it works.
  • I can write more often.  My best blog posts have been written in the winter months and I even published a book two winters ago.  I have an idea for a new book, but that project needs a lot of work, that may take a few offseasons.

Well, if I am going to get through this list, I had better get off the computer and get started!  Don’t worry Gardens4u fans, you can take the girl out of the garden, but you can’t take the garden out of the girl.  This list is only to keep me from losing my mind while my gardens are covered in snow.

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